One thing I’ve learned in these first three months of motherhood: sleep becomes your obsession. Mostly how to get more of it—for you and for baby.
So of course few weeks ago I suddenly became obsessed with the idea that Jack wasn’t napping enough. I googled articles and downloaded books and tried all kinds of new strategies only to come to a very simple conclusion: don’t fix what isn’t broken.
My plan coming into motherhood was a simple one. I’d read all of the parenting books that appealed to me and then sort of forget most of it once Jack arrived, applying what made sense once I met him and could observe the kind of kid he was. Clearly I broke my own rule, and I definitely regretted it.
My usually happy baby became a really unhappy one for about 48 hours, leaving me exhausted and frustrated. And it got me thinking—with all of the conflicting advice out there, the best thing we can do as parents is learn what we can, listen to our pediatricians, and be as intuitive as possible.
My friends who have multiple kids will be the first to say that every baby is different. No one strategy works on everyone, and as mamas we know our babies best. With safety as a top priority, everything beyond that is trial and error. Lesson learned: take all advice with a grain of salt.
P.S. After all of my reading, my favorite motherhood/parenting book is still Bringing Up Bebé—mostly because it’s anecdotal and not written by an “expert.” Super easy to read and lighthearted. A good read for pregnant or new mamas, and a great gift too!