I know I’ve been off the radar for a bit, but I promise I had a really good excuse. You see, on April 16th, I became a new woman. I married my best friend, went on the most perfect honeymoon, and will from this point forward be known as Natalie Borton. How wonderful is that?!?
It’s funny how two years ago I never imagined I would be married at age 24, let alone ever! I have always been a girl who related to the apostle Paul when he said in his first letter to the Corinthians,
Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. (7:8)
I had never been in love the way that I understand it now, and I could never imagine a desire to commit so much to another person for, well, forever. But then out of seemingly nowhere, as all of the best things usually come, I fell in love with Brian. And now he is mine and I am his always.
While I’m so thankful to be married, I want to take a moment to encourage the single girls out there who are in one of two positions: (1) desperately hoping to get married ASAP, and (2) happily single and frustrated with cultural expectations.
To the first group, I urge you to pray for your future husband, but otherwise put your efforts toward serving the Lord joyfully. Focus less on what you want God to be doing–sending you a guy to be with forever–and really tune in on what He is doing. The Lord promises us this:
Trust in the Lord and do good; dwell in the land and enjoy safe pasture. Take delight in the Lord, and he will give you the desires of your heart. (Psalm 37:3-4)
To the second group, I feel for you! I was in your boat for so many years, and I hated the way people talked about marriage as if it were the only way to have a complete, purposeful life. Let me assure of one thing that I know to be true: marriage is not the end-all, be-all, and it’s certainly not something you need in order to be a real, godly woman. We often neglect the reality that Jesus–the person we model our whole lives and actions around–was never married! Stand firm in your convictions, but know that God does what he wants, and he may one day change those convictions.
Okay, I’m off my soap box now. Now for what all of you curious girls out there have been waiting for…the photos!
Oh, and one last thing: with the name change also comes a blog URL change…please note that the new website address is natalieborton.com.
Do you feel cultural pressure to be married (whether you want to be or not)? How do you deal with it?