Thoughts By Natalie » worth and value honest talk about beauty, style, wellness and life Thu, 21 Aug 2014 12:00:39 +0000 en-US hourly 1 The Lies In Our Heads Tue, 13 Aug 2013 12:00:00 +0000 I’m at the grocery store, cutting it dangerously close to dinnertime. I wander the aisles with curiosity, which very surprisingly and suddenly turns to a heaviness within. At once, more than just dinner is on my mind. I am painfully and fully aware of every ounce of self-doubt, inadequacy and failure in my life. In that moment, I am not good enough in any way—not healthy enough, not clean enough, not pretty enough, not talented enough in the kitchen, not a good enough wife, not good enough at my work, not good enough at taking care of my dog. I am absolutely sidelined with the weight of these lies as they sink deeper and deeper into my heart, which is rapidly believing that they are true. The dinner verdict? Bread with oil and vinegar, plus a side salad. A very sad attempt of not completely failing at my task that evening. A simple, cheap, and honestly, pretty inadequate dinner for my 6’9″ husband. Inadequate like the rest of my life, or so I believed at the moment. How do we move forward once we’ve let ourselves believe the lies in our head? How do we say no to the lies ...]]> 0 Sunday Sessions: He Is Risen Sun, 31 Mar 2013 12:00:00 +0000 0 healthy girl talk: redefining beauty Mon, 31 Dec 2012 13:00:00 +0000 0 a catalyst for positive change Tue, 18 Dec 2012 19:08:00 +0000 2 let’s rally, girls Tue, 11 Dec 2012 19:27:00 +0000 4 god loves ugly Tue, 30 Oct 2012 16:28:00 +0000 5 we are more than a number on the scale. Wed, 03 Oct 2012 16:27:00 +0000 12 in solitude. Tue, 02 Oct 2012 16:35:00 +0000 2 becoming real. Wed, 22 Aug 2012 15:43:00 +0000 For no reason that I can determine, I thought about The Velveteen Rabbit this morning. It’s a children’s book by Margery Williams—a story about a stuffed rabbit who wants to become real. The best part is at the beginning, when the Rabbit asks the Skin Horse about what it takes to do so: “The Skin Horse had lived longer in the nursery than any of the others. He was so old that his brown coat was bald in patches and showed the seams underneath, and most of the hairs in his tail had been pulled out to string bead necklaces. He was wise, for he had seen a long succession of mechanical toys arrive to boast and swagger, and by-and-by break their mainsprings and pass away, and he knew that they were only toys, and would never turn into anything else. For nursery magic is very strange and wonderful, and only those playthings that are old and wise and experienced like the Skin Horse understand all about it. “What is REAL?” asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. “Does it mean having things that ...]]> 6 narcissism and vanity: why we need less self-love. Wed, 15 Aug 2012 14:53:00 +0000 6