Thoughts By Natalie » love yourself link up honest talk about beauty, style, wellness and life Tue, 19 Aug 2014 12:00:10 +0000 en-US hourly 1 My Favorite Thing Tue, 27 Aug 2013 18:59:00 +0000 Admittedly, I have totally been brainwashed by our culture to believe that thin and fit are what will make me pretty, sexy and attractive in general. I know this isn’t really news to anyone—I’m sure all of you can relate to feeling like you should look like exactly what you’re not—but then I had a thought the other day: What if I just let myself love my body as it is? What if I chose to accept the size of my hips and my bottom, rather than spend endless hours trying to change them? What if I let true health be the bottom line, rather than the cultural mold of beauty that tells me that what we look like determines our health? Last week, I had a day when I just felt like my body was all wrong. I’m too short. I’m too curvy. I’m not toned enough. My stomach isn’t flat enough. My cheeks are chubby. My feet are too small. Lies, lies, lies (what’s new). And then, strangely, the next day my eyes were opened. It was as if a veil was removed and suddenly I had a delightful view of myself, one where my thighs and hips ...]]> 0 The Lies In Our Heads Tue, 13 Aug 2013 12:00:00 +0000 I’m at the grocery store, cutting it dangerously close to dinnertime. I wander the aisles with curiosity, which very surprisingly and suddenly turns to a heaviness within. At once, more than just dinner is on my mind. I am painfully and fully aware of every ounce of self-doubt, inadequacy and failure in my life. In that moment, I am not good enough in any way—not healthy enough, not clean enough, not pretty enough, not talented enough in the kitchen, not a good enough wife, not good enough at my work, not good enough at taking care of my dog. I am absolutely sidelined with the weight of these lies as they sink deeper and deeper into my heart, which is rapidly believing that they are true. The dinner verdict? Bread with oil and vinegar, plus a side salad. A very sad attempt of not completely failing at my task that evening. A simple, cheap, and honestly, pretty inadequate dinner for my 6’9″ husband. Inadequate like the rest of my life, or so I believed at the moment. How do we move forward once we’ve let ourselves believe the lies in our head? How do we say no to the lies ...]]> 0 Returning To The Gym Tue, 30 Jul 2013 16:41:00 +0000 The first time I worked out at a gym, I was 17. It was the last year of high school and I had just finished up my fourth year of competitive cheerleading. Unsure of how to be athletic outside of school sports, I noticed many of my friends belonged to a local gym and I followed suit, working out there for several months before I left California to spend the summer in Massachusetts. When I got to the east coast, I decided to continue my gym workouts at the small gym at my parents’ golf club. It was there that I would learn the foundations of non-sports workouts, and also where I first believed that I needed to lose weight. I was working with a trainer at the time, and during one of our sessions after I had been away for several weeks, he asked if I had been doing a lot of running while I was away. Not being a runner at all at the time, I told him I’d been eating healthy and walking a lot, and asked why he was wondering. This part is a vivid memory: he told me I looked leaner, and then gave me ...]]> 0 Self-Awareness Wed, 17 Jul 2013 19:02:00 +0000 0 Happiness & Self-Control Tue, 09 Jul 2013 19:04:00 +0000 1 Change The Story Tue, 25 Jun 2013 12:00:00 +0000 0 Shorts Story Tue, 18 Jun 2013 20:30:00 +0000 With just a couple of weeks left until my annual summer trip to Massachusetts, I realized I was in short supply of, well, shorts. Thus, while Brian was away on a business trip yesterday, I dedicated my evening to finding at least one pair that I loved. Since I’ve tried on everything at Target already, I knew I needed to start elsewhere—and LOFT is where I ended up. At first, I was pretty excited and filled with anticipation for my discovery of a fabulous pair of summer bottoms. As I wondered the store, I picked up one pair after another until my arms felt like they were going to break. I probably brought in one of every single pair of shorts in the store into my dressing room—there wasn’t even enough space to hang or lay out everything I had in there with me. With the exception of one romper, every single item was a pair of shorts. As I tried on pair after pair, I started to feel a little dejected. These ones are too small. These ones are too long. These ones are made for people without backsides (and I am definitely a girl with a backside). It ...]]> 6 On Not Having The Words Thu, 06 Jun 2013 00:07:00 +0000 0 Choosing Beauty Over Vanity Tue, 21 May 2013 18:00:00 +0000 0 Ready Or Not Tue, 14 May 2013 12:00:00 +0000 0