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the most beautiful people

Today on Know Your Value I’m sharing about how the pain and struggles we’ve been through make us more beautiful people. Check it out over there, or read it in full below after the jump…

I discovered this quote a while ago, but had forgotten about it until recently when a dear friend reminded me of it. It’s such a beautiful truth, isn’t it? We hate to struggle and we crave to be beautiful, but what if in order to be truly beautiful, we had to experience the pain, suffering and loss we constantly try to avoid in life?

Beauty isn’t about lipstick and skinny jeans and perfect looking locks. It’s rooted deep within—it’s found in the depths of the soul. It’s not so much that pain makes us beautiful, but rather what comes from it. When we go through difficulties in life—be it unemployment, death of a loved one, an eating disorder, depression, a tough family life, you name it—it makes us humble. Rather than demonstrating pride or arrogance that can so often come with life being perfect, painful experiences make us people who care.

Though trying times can often cause us to be inwardly focused for a season while we process, that time of introspection creates self-awareness, and when combined with the healing that comes in time, it produces compassion, empathy, gentleness and love that wasn’t there before.

I truly believe that with each trial we face in life, we have the opportunity to become more and more beautiful. To paraphrase Beth Moore, all that we’ve done or has been done to us in our past exists to make space for grace. The more grace we experience, the more capacity we have to love, and the more beautiful we become.

How has pain in your past made you a more beautiful woman today?

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    October 17, 2012 at 7:51 pm

    Natalie, this is a beautiful post and something I think we too often forget. Beauty isn’t what’s on the outside but what shines from within.

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      Natalie Lynn Borton
      October 17, 2012 at 9:07 pm

      Thanks KP! Glad it was as good of reminder for you as it was for me!

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    October 17, 2012 at 8:19 pm

    I have said it before, but I am honestly in love with your blog. Your life is so parallel to mine and you write your posts on just the perfect things (that i need to hear at the right time!). I have a little blog mostly for friends and family, more of a little personal outlet but someday I would love to grow it into a blog like yours. Any suggestions? Again, thanks for the daily inspiration:)


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      Natalie Lynn Borton
      October 17, 2012 at 9:12 pm

      Thank you, Emily!

      Here are a few tips, since you asked :)

      -Always write what you know
      -Write for your readers (who are they and what do they want to read?)
      -Have a clear “about” section so readers know what to expect
      -Design your blog in a way that’s visually appealing and logical
      -Be consistent! Traffic grows if you post regularly :)

      Good luck!

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