Today I want to introduce a brand new mini-series I’ve created in partnership with Mitera Collection, a clothing brand that celebrates the modern mother throughout her motherhood journey, creating beautiful, practical, and functional dresses that support her lifestyle. Over the course of four posts, I’ll be sharing some thoughts on topics related to modern motherhood while featuring the beautiful, nursing-friendly Ellen Dress styled different ways.
To kick things off, let’s talk about the strange reality that is being a stay at home, work at home mom.
I first recognized the concept of stay-at-home, work-at-home life when my friend Bonnie wrote about it for Darling Magazine. Before reading her piece, I’d really only considered two options for moms: you stay at home with babies and be a homemaker, or you go back to work and fall into the working mom category. The idea that there could be something in the middle really intrigued me, especially since my career isn’t a traditional one.
When I found out I was pregnant with Jack, my mind was a whirlwind of possibilities and also anxiety. Before he came into the picture, I felt like I was really on a roll career-wise and had a lot of big dreams for what I’d do professionally and even entrepreneurially. Two positive pregnancy tests changed everything. Would I keep on blogging? Would I move forward with my existing plans? Or would I drop it all and be all-in for motherhood?
I felt thankful at least that my work kept me at home. But at the same time, I was fearful that I’d either resent my new baby for taking me away from work I was passionate about (how’s that for honesty?), or that I’d start to let my work slide and become unprofessional. After tons of conversations over mocktails with Brian last spring, I decided to say goodbye to a few short-term dreams but hang on to this blog and my role at Glitter Guide—two things that have brought me joy and creative opportunity for years.
Now, 8 months later, I’m fully entrenched in stay-at-home, work-at-home life and it’s working out for the most part. I get everything done during nap times—precious, precious nap times. When Jack is up, we play and explore, go for walks and giggle. And when Brian is home, we engage in conversation, drink wine, eat dinner, bond. Laundry gets done when I remember it. Cooking is more semi-homemade than from scratch. Cleaning gets done once a month by a very nice lady named Esther, who is a complete life-saver.
Do I wish I had more time to get things done? Yes, yes, yes. But at the same time, I really love this little arrangement I have going on. I delight in having this precious time with my baby, who is already growing up faster than I’d like. And I also cherish the time I have while he sleeps to be creative and feel like an adult, giving me plenty of non-baby things to talk about when I interact with other human beings during the week.
Every other week or so I think about my friends who have picked one way or the other—staying at home or working in an office—and I sort of envy the definitive nature of their time. They know where they need to be and what they need to do and their time isn’t so undefined. But then I think about my personality—how I basically hate working for anyone but myself, and how grateful I am for the chance to watch Jack learn to sit up, eat bananas with his hands and try his darnedest to crawl forwards rather than backwards. This stay-at-home, work-at-home life isn’t for everyone, but I’m sure glad it’s working out for me so far.
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A LITTLE NOTE ABOUT TAILORING AND INVESTMENT PIECES: The dress I’m wearing has been hemmed by my tailor for my perfect fit. This dress is made longer (on my 5’4″ body it hit right at the knees) for maximum versatility. It can be worn during and after pregnancy, and also easily worn by taller women or anyone looking for a more modest dress. I like my dresses on the shorter side, so I tailored mine, but it’s worth noting that the dress won’t look exactly like mine when it arrives on your doorstep. As far as pricing goes, this dress is undeniably an investment piece. It’s not for everyone, but it is absolutely a worthy purchase for fellow minimalists who are interested in quality over quantity. It’s ideal for those of you who are pregnant (or plan to be!), work in a professional environment and need to pump during the day, or non-pregnant, non breastfeeding moms who just want to wear high quality pretty dresses that they can wear and throw in a washing machine. (That’s right—this dress is machine washable!) Get all the deets about the Ellen Dress here.
(This post was created in partnership with Mitera Collection, a brand whose mission I love and support. For every dress they sell, Mitera helps support the work of organizations dedicated to improving maternal and newborn health! Thanks for supporting the brands that make Thoughts By Natalie possible!)