Thoughts By Natalie

Love Your Selfie

This morning the Today Show kicked off a new series called “Love Your Selfie,” which will examine the current obsession with body image and what we can do to feel more positive about ourselves. I just am so thrilled to be seeing this more and more in mainstream media. Times are changing!

The segment today was especially wonderful, as the Today Show team got candid about what each of them are insecure about, and then talked about how they’ve come to embrace their so-called flaws. It was powerful to hear their honesty. I especially loved hearing from the women, several who shared about how childbirth has changed their figure, but how they obviously wouldn’t trade their children for their pre-baby body. The segment finished up with a panel-like chat—with the entire team completely free of makeup on air—and discussing more matters related to our culture’s obsession with appearance.

Be sure to take some time today to watch it, then let me know what you think!

For me (among other things) I’m forever insecure about how young I look. Some would say that’s a great quality that I’ll be thankful for in 20 years, but for now, it’s tough being mistaken for a high school student at age 27. I’m not a teenager—I’m a woman. And I think somehow I feel like people take me less seriously at first because I look young.

There of course are plenty of other things I’m insecure about that I won’t share here and now, but my view echoes what Tamron shared in her video confessions. Outside of moments like this—where I write honestly about body image and my own journey—I decided years ago to avoid negative self-talk, and instead speak positively about my own body any others’ bodies. It’s so challenging sometimes, but if we’re always being negative about our bodies, what kind of message are we sending to other women (and worse, to young girls in our lives)?

Just a little food for thought today, on a topic I clearly cannot write enough about.

What do you tend to be insecure about? Do you struggle to avoid negative self-talk?

P.S. How could I write about this and not participate? This is me, makeup-free! Share a link to yours below if you decide to participate :)

Love Your Selfie //

  • Jen
    February 24, 2014 at 9:52 am

    I’m insecure about many things…but two things stand out. My weight and my gray hair. I put most of my free time in at Crossfit, but due to poor nutrition choices I’m not seeing the results I’d like. And well gray hair just sucks. Lots of maintenance. And as I near my 39th bday all I can do is be thankful I look youthful!!! Unfortunately I think it’s challenge not to judge others. It comes from both our insecurities and jealousies. Something most of us could work on.

  • Jessica
    February 24, 2014 at 10:02 am

    Beautiful, Natalie! I am loving No Make Up Monday! I think this may be a new trend for me :)

    • Natalie Lynn Borton
      February 24, 2014 at 10:07 am

      Yay! A bare face does feel quite nice, doesn’t it? :)

  • Kristy
    February 24, 2014 at 10:32 am

    I’m not really a selfie person, mainly because I instagram enough pictures of my daughter and dog to fill up my feed :) but I do love seeing photos of the beautiful faces of people I follow both in real life and online. And I loved this segment on the show! I thought they all looked pretty great considering how much makeup we’re using to seeing on their faces every day. And Natalie, you look fantastic, with or without makeup!

    • Natalie Lynn Borton
      February 26, 2014 at 4:21 pm

      Yes, it was so fun to see them all make-up free!

  • Madison
    February 24, 2014 at 1:01 pm

    I just love the way people look natural and makeup-free. There is something so beautiful and real about seeing people in their real, natural state. You, by the way, took great without makeup! I didn’t get to watch the segment, and it will have to wait because I’m at work, but I’m looking forward to watching it. Your “real beauty” posts are always so inspiring!

    • Natalie Lynn Borton
      February 24, 2014 at 1:49 pm

      Agreed—I love seeing women without makeup, too! It was fun that everyone on the show ditched their makeup for the segment. Fun to see them as they really look. It’s such a vulnerable thing in the best way. Let me know what you think of it once you get a chance to see it! XO

  • Emily
    February 25, 2014 at 6:02 am

    Loved this! I’m a tv reporter and I would be VERY uncomfortable without my on-air makeup. Very brave of them. I love the effort to acknowledge our insecurities without letting them hold us back.

    P.s. I’m semi new to your blog and really enjoy it! Bought some of the Josie Maran oil and I’m obsessed!

    • Natalie Lynn Borton
      February 26, 2014 at 4:20 pm

      Oh yay! So glad you found me and started reading this blog :) And that you’re loving the Argan Oil! It’s my obsession :)

  • Brian
    February 25, 2014 at 6:27 am

    Excellent post Natalie. As always, your honesty is refreshing and inspiring!

  • Molly
    February 25, 2014 at 10:16 am

    Wow, you’re stunning without makeup! Going makeup-free is such a sign of confidence, and I think that in itself is beautiful. I actually have the same insecurity about looking younger than I am. It’s the combo of being short, thin, and having a young-looking face/ skin that does it. But I just look at it as a challenge to show everyone how mature/ capable I am, and when I do, it’s such a a great feeling. And though I always forget about the benefits of looking younger, I will 100% appreciate it when I’m older. My mom is an excellent indication of that :)

    • Natalie Lynn Borton
      February 26, 2014 at 4:18 pm

      You are so kind! So glad you enjoyed the post and that you can appreciate your youthful appearance more than I can!!

  • Meg
    February 26, 2014 at 3:36 pm

    This is awesome! Thanks for covering it. Ya know what’s funny? Some of my most insecure friends have what I consider “the perfect appearance” – which just goes to show that attractiveness is more of a mindset than anything else! What’s that Sophia Loren quote? Sex appeal is half what you got and half what you think you got? Love it!

    When I was in my counseling program I did my internship at the university wellness center. The center director once said that she’s noticed fewer college aged women with eating problems since the Kardashians came on the scene – She was seeing more young men who worried about being cut and ripped. Whether or not the Kardashians are the greatest role models for young women is another topic), but I just thought that was funny, and kind of sweet. It’s okay to eat. It’s okay to be active vs. compulsively exercising. It’s okay to not live in the gym.

    I appreciate it that public figures are willing to be vulnerable about their appearance.