Thoughts By Natalie

Shorts Story

With just a couple of weeks left until my annual summer trip to Massachusetts, I realized I was in short supply of, well, shorts. Thus, while Brian was away on a business trip yesterday, I dedicated my evening to finding at least one pair that I loved. Since I’ve tried on everything at Target already, I knew I needed to start elsewhere—and LOFT is where I ended up.

At first, I was pretty excited and filled with anticipation for my discovery of a fabulous pair of summer bottoms. As I wondered the store, I picked up one pair after another until my arms felt like they were going to break. I probably brought in one of every single pair of shorts in the store into my dressing room—there wasn’t even enough space to hang or lay out everything I had in there with me. With the exception of one romper, every single item was a pair of shorts.

As I tried on pair after pair, I started to feel a little dejected. These ones are too small. These ones are too long. These ones are made for people without backsides (and I am definitely a girl with a backside). It was then that I realized: no matter how confident I am when I enter a dressing room, shorts tend to remind me of everything I don’t love about my body, and I hate that.

The thing is, clothing is meant to fit me—not the other way around. Though I feel like I have to remind myself of this truth every single summer, it’s a truth worth re-learning: If something doesn’t flatter or feels uncomfortable or makes me feel like my body is less than ideal, the clothing is the issue, not my body. My body is mine to love and to accept, and I don’t need to torture myself by wearing anything that makes me insecure about what God gave me.

In the end, I left the store with three items, but have decided to keep only one: that adorable romper. Though I know shorts are a great option for summer, and I know I’m probably not seeing myself accurately in the mirror, the way I feel about what I’m wearing impacts the way I feel about my body in general. Aside from a couple of pairs of shorts that I already own and love, I’ve decided that—at this point in time, at least—shorts generally make me feel bad about body, and it’s perfectly okay to skip them altogether if I wish.

What summer clothing item could you do without?

(Photo snapped by Brian last summer in Martha’s Vineyard during a moment of confidence in my denim cutoff shorts)

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Shorts: homemade cutoffs (similar)
Watch: Timex
Tank: J.Crew, old (similar)
Scarf: J.Crew Factory, old (similar)

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This is part of the Love Yourself Linkup—an ongoing series by women around the web focusing on self image and body image. In our posts, we will talk about our thoughts on these subjects, tell stories of our personal experience, share what has inspired us, challenged us, and more. Read my previous posts in the series here, and join the conversation by hitting “enter” below.

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  • Samantha Collins
    May 6, 2014 at 8:45 am

    I hate wearing shorts too…I’ve been trying to run more and work out more but with my schedule it has been so hectic that I feel I am not “in the shape” I want to be in to fit in to certain outfits/shorts this summer. So your post really resonates with me right now…not to mention the lack of sun has left me feeling a little…pale. I always dislike how I look in shorts…and it to…reminds me about everything I dislike about my figure/body. – Thanks for sharing!

  • Jessica
    May 6, 2014 at 9:24 am

    I’m the opposite! I have a long torso so rompers are so uncomfortable and make feel like I have wedgie (not to mention exposing my butt to the world)! The world needs to be reminded of this in this spring season, guys too. Thank you, my friend! This is good stuff. Keep on figuring out what clothes make you feel beautiful with little Jack. It’s definitely an inspiration for others to love their bodies the way they are.

    • Natalie Lynn Borton
      May 6, 2014 at 3:52 pm

      Yes, it’s all about finding what works for your unique body—not feeling bad about missing out on trends and styles. Best of luck as you embrace your body and dress it comfortably :)

  • Hannah
    May 6, 2014 at 3:53 pm

    As silly as it sounds I have never thought of it that way, “if something makes me feel less confided or uncomfortable it’s the clothes not my body”. I naturally think well so-and-so looked so cute in it, I should too! But every body is different. I’m definitely going to keep this in mind as a new matto.

    Btw, I too would much prefer a breezy dress any day than shorts :)