With just a couple of weeks left until my annual summer trip to Massachusetts, I realized I was in short supply of, well, shorts. Thus, while Brian was away on a business trip yesterday, I dedicated my evening to finding at least one pair that I loved. Since I’ve tried on everything at Target already, I knew I needed to start elsewhere—and LOFT is where I ended up.
At first, I was pretty excited and filled with anticipation for my discovery of a fabulous pair of summer bottoms. As I wondered the store, I picked up one pair after another until my arms felt like they were going to break. I probably brought in one of every single pair of shorts in the store into my dressing room—there wasn’t even enough space to hang or lay out everything I had in there with me. With the exception of one romper, every single item was a pair of shorts.
As I tried on pair after pair, I started to feel a little dejected. These ones are too small. These ones are too long. These ones are made for people without backsides (and I am definitely a girl with a backside). It was then that I realized: no matter how confident I am when I enter a dressing room, shorts tend to remind me of everything I don’t love about my body, and I hate that.
The thing is, clothing is meant to fit me—not the other way around. Though I feel like I have to remind myself of this truth every single summer, it’s a truth worth re-learning: If something doesn’t flatter or feels uncomfortable or makes me feel like my body is less than ideal, the clothing is the issue, not my body. My body is mine to love and to accept, and I don’t need to torture myself by wearing anything that makes me insecure about what God gave me.
In the end, I left the store with three items, but have decided to keep only one: that adorable romper. Though I know shorts are a great option for summer, and I know I’m probably not seeing myself accurately in the mirror, the way I feel about what I’m wearing impacts the way I feel about my body in general. Aside from a couple of pairs of shorts that I already own and love, I’ve decided that—at this point in time, at least—shorts generally make me feel bad about body, and it’s perfectly okay to skip them altogether if I wish.
What summer clothing item could you do without?
(Photo snapped by Brian last summer in Martha’s Vineyard during a moment of confidence in my denim cutoff shorts)
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